Internet Dating:Should I consider placing an advert on-line?
Internet Dating is slowly becoming the in thing nowadays,even in conservative societies.You may have searched all over the place for that perfect guy/girl but you never seem to find them.
Go on the internet and there they are.But don"t you think it is all too good to be true?You could have been looking for years for that one true love.The one meant to sweep you off your feet and carry you off into the sunset.Yes, that sounds so romantic doesnt it.
How is it that you have spend say almost an entire lifetime looking for the one and you never did,only to find them in one click?Is it actually possible?
The unfortunate thing is that often we are all so caught up in the perfect dream,the perfect home,the perfect partner that we do not see all the warning signs flashing from right before our eyes.
Not entirely saying that people should disregard the internet.I guess socialisation also plays a part on whether you would consider internet dating. I was brought up to believe that no decent person,especially girl for that matter, would go on the internet and look for men."It is cheap and not proper".I was told over and over again.
But as I grew older I realised that not all people who go over the internet are desperate.It is rather more convenient would you not say, after all by just one click you get a list of so many profiles to pick from.
The only issue I guess is that people are more comfortable with convention.The way you go about choosing a partner is always an individual choice but you should always exercise extreme caution.Whether you choose internet dating over conventional methods you can still be a target to some unscrupulous people.
It is always important not to reveal too much over the internet and although some genuine people do meet over the internet,be wary of scamers and fraudsters.
People always pretend to be who they are not,so in short be careful whilst dealing with potential boyfriends/girlfriends.They lure you whilst unsuspecting and before you know it you are in too deep only to realise that essentially they were never that person they told you they were.
It was just a way to get what they want and satisfy some fantasy and exploit you.The tips and dangers of connecting with people over the internet have been emphasised over and over again.
Do not ignore these simply because s/he seems really special and is different.Remember trust is earned.If they are truly genuine they will understand why you took all those precautions in the first place
But despite being told over and over again people do throw caution to the wind.Do not beat yourself up about it.At least that mistake is a learning point.
You learn from experience after all.Learn and do not blame yourself.Even if it is your fault,blaming will only make you feel worse.
The good thing is that most providers of these internet dating sites do try to conduct background checks on the different people with profiles available.
Although people always assume that people who go online for dates are more susceptible to danger,people are who they are,people,and you might think because you have seen someone for sometime now then they are ok,but truth is you never really know them.
Just because you have seen somebody for a while and they ask you out does not mean you are buddies.You still need to be cautious.This is different say when you date after being friends for a while.So basically most of the precautions you take whilst on the internet also apply to conventional dating.
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